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Wednesday, January 1, 2014

When Life Gets in the Way (Burning Rubber Outta The Keys...)

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Dad, the prior visit, in much better health.
Between Christmas and New Year's in the Florida Keys is not a good time to rent a car there.  

"They're all gone," Budget said.  "Minimum 8 day rental, $516," Avis said.  Enterprise set me up for a one-way for less that $200 (and gas and a cab back from the airport) as long as I dropped off the car at the airport within near 24 hours of when I rented it. It was for a family emergency.  Patty, at Enterprise, seemed to care more about me than maximum profit potential, which is my experience overall with Enterprise.

Driving up the Keys coast from Marathon is a slow and painful process, but it was hard not to burn rubber on the open roads of Highway 75, aka "Alligator Alley" which bisects Florida's East-to-West coasts.  Along the way Dad's. "You really don't need to come" was overshadowed by Anna, my best friend's righteous and right-on advice, "You Dad needs a health advocate, ASAP.  You need to go."  Besides, I was worrying too much not to go.  Unproductive worry sucks.  "Do what you need to do," Wayne said.

"Welcome to 'Phase 1' of the child-parent role reversal," Daniel reminisced, as we chatted before my cell phone dropped into a dead zone on 'the alley.'  "All my Mazamas friends are somewhere in that continuum with their parents.  Here's our story...."  That was Saturday night, December 28th.

At 1 am, December 31st, after a light tap on "my" guest bedroom door, my Dad urgently asked, "Take me to the hospital," 

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My husband, and Journey, our Pearson 365 ketch sailboat
are in this mooring field in Marathon's Boot Key Harbor.
So, instead of spending New Year's with cruiser friends and more importantly, my husband Wayne, in Marathon sharing hoppin' John and collard greens, my brother and I spent it with Dad and his wife in Sarasota Memorial Hospital.

"Ummm, you may want to take this with apple juice or diet cranberry," Dad's nurse Christine advised.  Dutifully, Dad slugged down his powdered 'orange' potassium supplement with diet cranberry juice.  "My New Year's cocktail!" he joked.

Dad is a good sport, taking on with a truly admirable level of grace the many indignities foisted upon him by the medical profession to carry on alive at 89 years young into 2014, definitely beating the odds.  Not in my wildest imagination did I expect to spend the holiday in a room with my Dad witnessing him learning to piss like a racehorse (literally) to save his life.  But damn, I'm glad HE is here.

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Wayne, who promises TLC
upon my return.
Someday soon, Wayne's promised me a welcome-back massage.  I'm looking forward to that, as well as hoppin' John and collard greens, and mimosas instead of potassium cocktails.  We will maybe also cheer for my Dad, wherever he is at that time.  He sets one hell of an example to follow.

We push past a lot of excuses to cruise.  Still, sometimes life gets in the way.  Like cruising, being truly present is what life is all about.  Even when it's in a hospital for New Year's.

May your New Year be filled with joy, and far less drama.

4 comments:

  1. We plan, God laughs. Blah blah blah.

    Take care of the important things. The rest will take care of itself. We cruise to live without regrets. Sometimes we don't cruise for the same reason.

    Best Wishes from Phil and Nancy

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  2. Thank you Phil and Nancy; well put.

    Yes, when not present, it makes sense to find some way to address where my head is at.

    This morning the plan is to check Dad into rehab, likely for 1-2 weeks. I was glad to advocate for that as he is a primary caregiver and otherwise was a sure recipe for a relapse.

    He's got a strong spirit, a loving heart and a practical mind but a fragile body.

    I'm grateful to have this opportunity to spend time with him and help him be as comfortable as possible and incredible grateful my brother is able to be here too.

    Who knows how many more opportunities we'll have? Each one is precious.

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  3. Hey, Dana! Sorry to hear about your Dad over the holidays but glad he's doing well now. Miss you guys! Dr. Bill Scott is back and he and Bigfoot are developing a routine. Then Bill starts work again on 2/10 at Mayport so will be gone all day again. I'll be stopping in at the tail end of my morning walk to say Hello to my sweet li'l buddy! -- Kate

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  4. Miss y'all! Glad Bigfoot's allowed his overnight guest to return at long last. Hmmm I might bite roomie gone that long.

    We're enjoying Ortega Landing Marina's coupon for Palm Cay marina. Great place to make some needed changes to our dinghy. Safe and quiet.

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